Low-level abuse at the workplace is par for the course for women. Here is A Dummies Guide To Casual Workplace Harassment.
"I'm single, and when I find a woman sexy, I tell her she's sexy. I compliment women. Is that wrong?"
TVF's Arunabh Kumar, accused of sexual harassment and molestation yesterday through an anonymous blog post - swiftly followed by over a dozen other similar anecdotes - has had some pretty questionable responses to the allegations in the last 24 hours. From his official statement (in which he basically said "this is bullsh*t") to this quote in the Mumbai Mirror, it appears that he/men in general still need help with How Not To Sexually Harass Someone.
While investigations are underway for this particular case, what stands out is the shared experience of low-level abuse at the workplace, which is par for the course for women. “It’s not like he raped you”, “what’s the big deal”, “he’s just being friendly”, “don’t overplay the woman card”, “yeh sab chalta hai”, “if you make a noise about it, you’ll be known as ‘that type of girl’ and you won’t find a job again”, “no one’s gonna take you seriously” are constantly reinforced to us from everyone that we meet — from protective mothers at home worried about the backlash, to colleagues at work who are used to carrying on like nothing has happened, even HR departments, who more often than not will ask, “Are you sure?” when you go to file a complaint against a colleague/superior.
For all these guys, and for Kumar, and for anyone else who's still confused about this in 2017, here's A Dummies Guide To Casual Workplace Harassment.