Because if Deepika and Ranbir can lay their issues aside and find some neutral ground, so can you.
Of course, staying friends with your ex is firmly filed under the Don’ts section of every breakup manual, but if you’re determined not to lose a good friend because it didn’t work out romantically, here are seven tips that’ll help you re-enter the friendzone:
Give yourself and him some time and space
Just because you’ll decided to stay friends doesn’t mean you need to jump right back in the saddle and make movie plans. Back off, evaluate how you feel about staying friends with him while you’re still hurting and give your relationship the requisite mourning period.
Put the past behind you
While remaining friends post breakup isn’t exactly recommended, if you absolutely must enter into a fresh friendship with your ex, remember to check in your baggage from the past at the door.
Establish some boundaries
Yes, you may have decided that one failed relationship wasn’t worth losing your friendship over, but decide whether you’re up for listening to tales of his fresh conquests and accordingly set boundaries about how much to share.
Avoid physical intimacy at all costs
Acting normal with someone who you once knew intimately may sound tough, but keep the ex separate from the sex and you’ll do just fine.
No rehashing of the past.
Keep your conversations with your ex absolutely free of those ‘What went wrong?’ discussions unless you want to get on the fast track to trouble and find out for yourself why sticking to the point above is highly recommended.
Carry on with your life
Meet new guys, make new friends and carry on with your normal life. Moving on is a tedious process and it isn’t going to start until you stop clinging on to the past.
Know when to back off
Yes, you may have sworn to stay friends, but if things start getting out of hand or the two of you start falling back into the old patterns, know that you’ll be absolutely forgiven for cutting all ties and walking well away.
Are you friends with your ex? Tell us what rules you follow in the comments below.