There are a few people who win our love, but can cause distress for reasons that are unimaginable.
The best treatment for such individuals is a firm warning, but if they persist; your freedom is better bargain than losing any further time.
Dear Urban Cupid,
I am 19 years old and I am dating a guy who is 25. We have been together for about a year. Recently, we had a heated argument and it ended with him physically pushing me away. In the silence that followed, he started apologizing, realizing what he had done. He has not stopped pleading for forgiveness since, and promises that he will never do it again. However, I cannot think straight at the moment but should I forgive him and give him another chance. Each time I think about the incident, I feel hurt.
At the onset, let me make it very clear that any sort of physical abuse, trivial or otherwise, should not be tolerated. Having said that, in the heat of the moment, shoving the person you are arguing with is a frequent tendency for men. You need to sit him down and have a conversation, be stern and do not mollycoddle him, despite your love for him. Let him know that what he did wasn’t acceptable and the next time he does something out of character, you won’t stick around for his apologies. As for your trepidation and hurt, try to forgive him for his misdemeanor but if you cannot and you have lingering sense of hurt, then you need to reconsider your relationship.
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